Frequently Asked Questions

/Frequently Asked Questions

Sexual violence occurs when a person or group of persons forces or manipulates someone else into unwanted sexual activity without their consent. Sexual Violence could be manifested in forms like rape, sexual assault harassment and/or exploitation.

Child sexual abuse occurs when an adult or older child forces or persuades a child to take part in sexual activities. This does not have to be physical contact, and it can happen online.

Rape is an unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body part, or foreign object, without the consent of the victim.

Know that what happened to you is a crime and is not your fault and that you have several options including legal, medical, counselling/therapy, support group and other healing options. Click here for more information.

A number of children who are sexually abused do not tell anyone about it and it is incredibly difficult to know that someone you love has been hurt in such a way. If your child has been sexually abused, kindly take the steps listed here.

Rape is a Crime assists men, women and children of all ages access the care and support they require in an event of sexual violence. This is done by directing you to a service provider closest to you. We also operate a 24-hour hotline and online helpdesk to answer any of your questions and concerns. Our physical support volunteers are also available to help you through every step of your recovery process, should you require one.

Services offered by Rape is a Crime are confidential. This means that your case is not told to anyone without your consent. Your privacy is very important to us.

It is completely up to you whether or not to report a rape or sexual assault. However, if you want to end the cycle of violence and ensure that it does not happen to anyone else, then you should consider reporting the crime to the police – the sooner the better.

While we recommend that you take security precautions when you can, we want you to realize that the only person truly able to prevent sexual assault is the perpetrator. You also need to speak out against perceived threats within your environment. Therefore, it is important to believe survivors which would help create a culture in which sexual violence is not tolerated and reports of sexual violence are taken seriously.

Consent is a clear and conscious decision given by a person. It is voluntary and can be revoked. Consent cannot be assumed or obtained through coercion, manipulation, force or while under the influence of drugs including alcohol. A person under the age of 13, cannot give consent for any sexual activity, however, regardless of age, any sexual act or experience without consent is sexual violence.

Fact: The British crime survey in 2002 found that in fact 92% rapes were perpetrated by someone the victim knew. They could be friends, relatives, boyfriends, husbands, family, neighbours, colleagues, ex-husbands or ex-partners or the nice guy you met in a bar/club.

Fact: Any sexual violence can have a devastating effect on a person’s life. Rape is harmful whether the person is attacked by a total stranger or suffers an abuse of trust by someone she already knows. It can be hard to trust anyone after being raped by someone who you thought was a friend.

Fact: Some attackers badly beat and severely injure their victim, but most do not. Any form of sexual contact without consent is a violent act in itself and is legally a crime. For many rapists, the threat of further violence, implicit or explicit, is enough to terrify their victim.

Fact: Compliance does not mean consent. People do what is necessary to survive, and sometimes this means doing what the rapist asks, out of fear, not consent.

Fact: The majority of rapes are committed inside a building, and for many of these, in the women’s own home.

Fact: It is handy to be able to blame the victim in this way – it lets the perpetrators off the hook and it helps other people to develop a false sense of safety. Rape is a violation, and the victim is often afraid that their attacker will inflict harm on them.

Fact: Sexual assault or rape is no sex. It involves taking control of a victim’s body against their will. In many studies, rapists have admitted that rape is more about power and violence than about sex.

Fact: Women are not the only victims of sexual violence. Men, women, and children of all ages, persons living with disability, religious and non-religious persons are all vulnerable to sexual violence regardless of how they dress, where they live, or how they act. Yes, even you and me.


Fact: Violators can control, their sexual urges – including men who are often depicted as lacking any sense of control. Rape is a crime of violence, control, degradation and intimidation – it is about power, not desire.

Fact: This is part of the idea that all victims want, need or enjoy being taken by force and that they only said “no” to take away the need to feel guilty. people do not want, need or enjoy being threatened, humiliated, degraded, violated, beaten or being afraid for their lives.

Fact: Violators are often stronger than their victims and they use this physical advantage to prevent them from resisting successfully. During a sexual assault, a victim could become paralysed by fear. Sometimes victims may be demobilized by a drug or threatened with weapons, fists, or with harm to their children and loved ones. Exploitation of power imbalances between the abuser and the victim – especially when they know each other – can also be used to manipulate the victim. Regardless of how much physical force the rapist used or did not use, they are the guilty party, not their victim.


Fact: Freezing during a sexual assault is a very common reaction due to the shock of the negative event, and never indicates consent. It is a completely natural, instinctive response – it is the same as when a fox is trapped in headlights. This is our body’s way of protecting ourselves from the trauma of an assault. It is easy in retrospect to say that I should have put up a fight or screamed and shouted, but the reality at the time is quite different.

Fact: Many studies have shown that the level of false reporting of sexual assault is about the same as that for any other crime: only about 2%.

Fact: Many rapists appear perfectly normal. They often have steady jobs and consensual relationships with husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. There are very few convicted rapists who are diagnosed as having psychiatric problems. Studies have shown that around 6% of men will confess to rape if you describe it without using the word “rape”.